This month we wanted to spend some time talking about ways to connect with a child who has been through trauma. So many of the children we work with have gone through significant trauma. It is important to meet them where they are at. If the child is ready to talk, let them process what they have experienced.
Creating a safe space for the child to share what has happened to them is so important. I know this step may be hard for some of our kinship caregivers because they may have played a role in the trauma or have experienced it along side them. If your child isn’t ready to process or you don’t feel like you are ready to help them process, reach out to us for some referrals for local family counselors that could help. Also, keep routine as much as you can. Introducing tons of new routines can be overwhelming. Take small steps towards positive routine and structure. Find ways to engage with them, even if that means 20 minutes of one on one reading time each night. Finding a common hobby or one you can learn to love with them can be so beneficial for further bonding. Another great tip, is getting them moving, find a sport or recreational activity they enjoy and help them engage with it. Moving their bodies will do wonders for healing trauma. It is so important for both your child and you to recognize the importance of taking care of your physical body. The body holds onto trauma in ways that are hard to understand, learning to take care of it and listen to it will do wonders. Above all else, learn to be patient.
The trauma healing process can not be measured. Everyone’s journey is so unique and individual. When you create a safe and loving environment for your kinship child, the healing will come. Here are some more helpful tips from Better help, https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/trauma-and-children-tips-for-parents#
